Monday, May 26, 2014

One thing I have learned
You must always turn back towards your spouse after an argument.     Even if you are still hurt, even if you don’t come to a complete understanding or agreement.  The more times you do this, it will get easier and faster, and you will be able to communicate better. It is a muscle you must develop; an absolute for a marriage of depth.  Eventually the muscle will almost respond automatically for you.  If you keep your back towards your spouse, you will be taking steps farther away, a direction you really don't want to go. Can you hear someone more clearly when they are standing facing you or when they have their back to you?

Monday, January 13, 2014

Do you cherish your wife as much as your iphone?
How much did your phone cost?
Have you spent that much on your wife in the last 6 months?

How much do you pay each month to maintain your iphone?
Have you spent that much on your wife this month?

Did you buy a nice cover for your iphone to keep it in good condition?
Have you read a good marriage book or attended a good marriage seminar in the last year to help keep your wife and marriage in "good condition?"

Apps, apps and more apps!!
Have you browsed any jewelry or florist shops lately looking for just the right accessory for your that will make her say, "Wow"?

You search and search for just the right ringtone to sound cool.
How's the tone of your voice sounding to your wife?

You carry this phone in your pocket all day,
you're careful to never lose it or damage it, you check your pocket several times a day to make sure it's still there.

Have you called your wife today?  How is her day going?


Monday, December 30, 2013


I haven't "blogged" in awhile.  This year I plan to write a little more.  2013 has been quite the started with Tom's blood clots, which necessitated us to return from Peru 6 months earlier then we had planned.  Tara and Ben got married in January.  We lived in 4 different houses this year, selling our home of 16 years and buying a new one.  Kelly attended two different schools.  We lived through reverse culture shock (having been in Peru for the last 18 months). Tom and I both started new jobs.  Two of our family members went through some very traumatic situations.  Kurt and Taylor got married in October.  We found out that we will be grandparents for the first time this summer.   I think I would call this the year of many changes!  God gave me the word, "Hope" at the beginning of 2013.  I didn't really want this word at first, because I thought it was "weak," but I soon came to love this word.  It is really a "strong" word when used in alignment with God's word...connected to God, who is our (my) hope.  As the above verse (one of many) says...He is the only place to put our hope!!  Never lose hope! 

Monday, March 25, 2013

"But when I thought how to understand this, it seemed to me a wearisome task, until I went into the sanctuary of God, then I discerned their end."
  Psalm 73:16

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Council of the Holy Ones

One thing I really love, is being in on discussions where important decisions are being made.  I love hearing the different ideas and I love trying to help come up with the best solution(s).
With that on my mind, I read Psalm 89:7 this is now one of my new favorite verses.

"In the council of the holy ones God is greatly feared, he is more awesome than all who surround him."

Can you see it?!  I can picture the "holy council" meeting and in walks (or breezes) God...if they fear him and think He is awesome, how much more should I?   The smartest council (aka the council of the holy ones) still looks to God....what an amazing thought!!  How little I look to Him for my answers.  I think that if I have considered everything there is to think about than my logical decision is best....This verse reminds me who I need to listen to for input.

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Thursday, February 14, 2013


The single biggest problem in communication
is the illusion that it has taken place!
-George Bernard Shaw

Sometimes one wonders what the purpose of Valentine's day it really to rush down to Walgreen's at midnight and find that ridiculously expensive red card and big bag of chocolates that you will regret tomorrow? For me it is this...
Today is made to remind me to love especially well on those lives that live closest to me, that sometimes get stuck with the "left-overs".    May they know that I truly love them!
Happy Valentine's Day